How men ought to live their lives, to have greatest satisfaction. This book is more about masculinity and less about men. So this book is about practical spirituality for men. (sounds an oxymoron but wait till you read the book)
⚠ The book talks about sex, sexual polarity and other such topics.
Ideas that hit home for me …
Men are attracted to women. We like to woo them, penetrate them and pass on our identity into them. Similarly we are attracted to the world. We like to woo the world, penetrate it and pass on our identity into the world. Men get great satisfaction doing this.
Women and success elude men, resist them. Most men give-up during this pursuit. But ones who are sincere, persistent and willing to pass on their genius succeed. They “fuck” both and will leave their legacy of intercourse with the woman and the world.
As techies – ever felt bored of your technology or role ? I know many engineers that stay at the same organizations, roles, technologies for years, and remain unsatisfied.
David Deida says that men must be willing to give 100% to the task, fulfill their purpose and then completely let go of it. In tech terms this will translate to …
We feel uncertainty, fear, butterflies in our stomachs etc. But letting go is important.
Giving a 100% and then letting go are natural cycles for men.
They must neither do things to please others, nor should they do it out of a burden, fear or expectation.
Our world has emerging technologies viz. Artificial Intelligence, Machine Learning, Virtual Reality etc. I also know people who learn new technologies because it is fashionable to do so. Sharing certificates on LinkedIn or Facebook page helps garner likes.
Deida says that when we take actions to please others, we are in effect saying “I don’t trust my own wisdom”. We are weakening ourselves.
People seeing our LinkedIn or Facebook posts will feel the fakeness. When you deny your deep truth to please your woman, everyone will feel your lack of authenticity. They won’t trust you, since you don’t trust your own core intent.
Listen to others but make your own decisions. You might be right or wrong, but in the end you will strengthen yourself for the future.
Following is a true conversation…
Me : “Why don’t you go and study engineering at that college ?”
Other : “No yaar ! How will my parents start the generator ? who will fetch the heavy water bottles ?”
10 years later, the person is aone, unhappy and unfulfilled.
Most men have their inner calling. If they do not respond to this calling, then their core weakens. Children learn from osmosis. If their father is weakened, then the kids experience a weakened flavour of love.
A short time spent with a father who is fully present, sure of his mission will affect children much more than if they spend lots of time with a father who is ambiguous in his deepest purpose.
Men who have lived significant lives have not waited. Not for money, security, ease or women. Each moment waisted degrades your clarity of purpose.
I waited for a long time before starting my blog. Now that I have started it, I feel great. The delay I made, makes no sense anymore.
Next time you feel like changing jobs, learning a new technology, reading a book, creating a startup. Start now !
Need I say more 😀😀😀😀
I cannot put a finger on it, but something in this book resonated with me. Loved this book. I’ve read this 3 times and keep reviewing it a couple of times a year.
David Deida talks about masculinity in a way most don’t. He talks about listening to one’s inner calling; in fact he encourages it. I was programmed to do the opposite; to obey my parents, teachers, society, bosses and others. And understandably I was unsatisfied.
When Deida mentions that ignoring one’s calling makes one dissatisfied. That resonated with me.
Also, I believe I understood only 60% of the book. To clarify – this is not a criticism of the book, instead a show of my abilities.
This book is unlike most books I’ve read. I recommend it for all men.
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